Overcrowding Your Inner Circle Can Cause You Trouble
What’s an inner circle some would ask?
Before answering that, let me help you understand what kind of person I have been and how it changed?
If my memories are accurate, I was a happy child who loved to spend time around people and have fun, dance, laugh, eat and go out on picnics and train trips. But, I was also a shy kid who wouldn’t open up instantly and preferred to stick around people I was close to and completely avoid new faces.
While growing up, I became more and more conscious; not just about myself but also the people that I met. I became a quiet girl who was now a homebody. I learned that people critically judge us and hardly anyone left a chance to not prove that to me.
Just like everyone else on this planet, people and experiences molded me. But I couldn’t ever make hundreds of friends or at least have fifty acquaintances. I grew up to believe, fewer is better.
As I wasn’t a people hoarder, a couple of close friends, few cousins, two or three colleagues who turned work-friends, my parents and sibling graced my life.
I wouldn’t say this kept me immune from heartbreaks, dramas, and disappointments but the damage was considerably less. And the recovery was quick.
Now, to answer the first question here;
I would like to believe I have two circles when it comes to my relationships with people. An outer circle; that has nothing to do with my private life, it’s more public. And an inner circle; that’s my private life where one gets to see the real me.
I wonder if everyone has similar circles.
If they do, here’s a suggestion,
Don’t make your inner circle messy.
Agree or not, not everyone you know deserves that place in your life. Most of us in today's time hardly care about this.
Some would even ask me, why are you talking about this?
I would say, for your sanity!
We all know how people affect us and influence us.
Having quality friends in your inner circle boosts your life and if you let the wrong ones in, you are destined for a downfall.
As you grow up, you realize it’s the genuine and quality relationships that survive the test of time.
People change and walk away when their purpose isn’t met. Having someone like this in your inner circle disturbs your life. It breaks you.
You are fortunate if your inner circle is loaded with genuine people. And it’s wonderful.
Save yourself for the people who truly matter. Invest in them.
Meaningful connections that are always mutual should adorn your inner circle.
It’s up to us where we draw a line and who we choose to be in our personal space.
Going out and meeting new people should be a conscious exercise. You must observe and read them before making a wise decision of letting them into your private life.
Before you fall into a pit of guilt, break all toxic relationships and enrich your inner circle.
